Body Image Be Damned

Opting Out Of Body Image All Together

I’ve decided that I’m no longer going to have a body image. I want you to hear me clearly when I say this. I’m not saying that I want to improve my body image. I’m not even saying that I want to be neutral about my body image. I am saying that I simply don’t want to have one at all. I’m opting out.

Before I dive into why I’m no longer going to have a body image, and more importantly what I plan to do instead, I think it’s important to start by defining terms, you know, just so we’re all on the same page.

Body image is defined as, “a person's subjective picture or mental image of their own body.” For as long as I can remember, my “mental image” of my body has been terrible. I’ve always been “too much” of one thing or “not enough” of another. Belly too soft, boobs too big, thighs to wide, I could go on. I think we all know the “body hate” song and dance.

For years I’ve gone back and forth between trying to starve myself into a body I deemed acceptable, or white nuckeling through trying to accept the appearance of a body I hated. Both experiences were not only draining, but detrimental to my mental health.

What I Plan To Do Instead

Recently in a therapy session I decided that I am no longer gong to have an image of my body (body image), instead I’m going to have a relationship with my body. I am going to personify this complex compilation of nerves, cells, and organs and I am going to get to know her.

I’m going to find out what she likes to eat when she’s not trying to starve herself one day, or binge on sweets the next. I’m going to ask her how she likes to move when she’s not being punished or trying to burn calories. I’m going to experiment with what clothes feel good on her skin. Most importantly, I’m going to care for her.

Having a “body image” hasn’t served me well, so I’m simply not going to have one. My body and I will have a relationship. One that is built on trust, love, respect, and curiosity.